I’ll admit it— I used to be a little close-minded about what being a mom “should” look like.
Back then, I thought moms had to give up certain things. No drinking. No staying out late. No shopping sprees or spending money on things like cute shoes or bikinis. No watching adult shows or listening to music with a little edge. I honestly believed moms had to be this perfect, polished version of themselves 24/7—whether kids were around or not.
I thought being a good mom meant being selfless to the point of disappearing.
But now that I am a mom?
Yeah… no. That idea went out the window real quick.
Now I understand those moms I used to side-eye when I was younger. I get the moms who pour a glass of wine after bedtime, who wear bikinis to the beach, who still love fashion, fun, and a little wildness. I get the moms who take time for themselves and don’t apologize for it. Because guess what?
You don’t stop being YOU when you become a mom.
Being a mom doesn’t mean giving up joy or identity.. it means expanding who you are, not erasing it.
So hell yes, I’m still going to watch my favorite reality shows.
Hell yes, I’m going to wear the cute swimsuit.
Hell yes, I’ll dress up, go out, enjoy a drink, and live my life.
Because I’m not just someone’s mom.. I’m still me. And that’s what makes me a better one.
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