I love being an American. People in this country are chase independence and typically don’t allow anything to come in the way of that. Pursuing one’s dreams is one of the most beautiful things you can do in your life.
I think when you graduate from university, you should immerse yourself straight away in big city culture (like NY, Chicago, SFO, LA, etc.). When you are truly are on your own, you can learn about life and how to interact and deal with all kinds of people – the good and bad, the friendly and unfriendly, and the introverts and extroverts. This helps mold your still-malleable character into one that you can truly be proud of and use in years to come.
Your twenties are so important. This is the time where you get to experiment and figure out what you want – your career, your “type” of friends, your living style, and living your single life. Take advantage of this time because it all goes by so quickly! Go out, go on dates, hang out with friends – just be OUT! I remember how much I loved my NYC days. When I wasn’t at work or my apt, you’d probably find me at a restaurant or bar close to where I live OR at the gym OR just walking around the city aimlessly because that’s what I truly enjoyed doing as a part of “me” time.
The thirties is the decade where you’re in your prime. You have or want to have a family. Especially since you have found stability in your career, living situation, and perhaps already the love of your life. IMO, the first two are enough to be content with your life. The companionship of a loved one is what I consider life’s value-add. You can live with or without it. I have met many who feel the need to have a life partner and become overly stressed if they don’t have it. I used to be one of those people and all I can say is PLEASE focus on things you can control where you can find your inner peace and happiness — travel, food, reading, going [back] to school, etc. Once you focus on yourself, the things you want that aren’t in your control (ex. finding your future significant other) WILL come to you. You do you… first.
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